Why It’s Totally Okay If You Threw Your 5-Year Plan Out the Window

Some things, you just can’t plan.  Picture the span of five years: What can happen between the ages of 15 and 20? And what can happen between being a freshman in college and being a graduate? People evolve, as do their dreams, especially over the course of a half-decade. Here, we discuss the five-year plan (and its flaws) with Jennifer L. Silvershein, LMSW, a psychotherapist who specializes in treating adults who suffer from anxiety, depression and eating disorders. Silvershein presents her “ABCs” of goal-setting: achievable and believable then commit. “We live in a world of ‘would’ve, should’ve, could’ve’—which leads us to regret,” she says. “I tell my clients to stop ‘should-ing’ on themselves. So often, we have an idea of what we should be doing but, for some reason, aren’t making the connections to make the change. When this happens we have two choices: one, continue ‘should-ing’ on ourselves and making ourselves think as though we’re doing something wrong. And two, make a change by recognizing what we previously wanted is no longer working and begin to recognize … Continue reading Why It’s Totally Okay If You Threw Your 5-Year Plan Out the Window